Another Valentine’s Day Down…or is it?
Hey Dads (and Mums who are reading), we have just navigated another Valentines Day. With all the fanfare of flowers, chocolates, sappy chick flicks and wonderful memories it’s over for another year…or is it? This year, we tried something we have never done before…we went to the Opera.
I think we can all agree that planning something for Valentine’s Day is pretty easy. Why? Because it is already on the calendar and we don’t need to be overly ‘clued in’ to know that it’s our job as husbands to be chivalrous to create some romanticism every February 14th.
But what about the rest of the year? I understand that every family dynamic is different, however, I would like to suggest that if we, husbands, purposefully choose to put a few more ‘Valentine’s days’ on the calendar then our marriages would probably be less stressed and our wives would feel very cherished.
Check out this paragraph from the Bible, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.” Ephesians 4:25-28 (NKJV)
If you are familiar with the Bible verse above, you’ll notice that I skipped the first part. I’m not ignoring that earlier part in the passage listed above that does talk specifically to wives, yet the passage that is listed above is directly for us husbands. And now we have a choice to make. Are we going to love our wives? or not? It’s a pretty big challenge but let’s be straight up, there was a reason that you asked for that first date which led to a vow where you said, “I do”…and here you are today.
Take a moment and think. Remember that reason or reasons that motivated you before to go crazy for your girl, then match it up with the passage listed above… and love your wife.
Be encouraged that we are not merely meant to be in a marriage relationship that simply exists because we have kids who rely on us for their survival. I know it’s a distant memory but you had a loving relationship without kids before you had kids. Therefore, it is important for our marriage to have a high level of importance in our lives.
Because every family is unique, you are allowed to be unique in how you choose to love your wife. My wife loves it when I wash the dishes or when I take the boys down to the basement to make ‘daddy memories’…it gives her a mental break. But she also likes tulips to compliment the sunshine coming through the window.
What’s worthy of noting is that we are to love our wives just like Jesus Christ loves His church with an ultimate purpose that she would be perfect and without blemish. Our love for our wife is to have the same goal. Let her be encouraged by us for her to be fulfilled in Christ. Our love for our wife is not merely to have a hot night on the town, but to be an on-going support and encouragement for her to be confident that Christ has made provision for the journey that she is on and that her fulfillment is in Christ … and not the compassion fatigue that comes from taking care of a child with a disability.