Parents need to escape!
It was one of the most refreshing weekends we have had in a LONG time! We were looking forward to it for so many reasons; a weekend away with some of our closest friends, a beautiful beach setting…and NO kids!
I can pretty much summarize it with 2 profound, yet very simple statements.
- We ate a full meal…completely uninterrupted.
- We slept a full night’s sleep… completely uninterrupted.
Can you believe this…we were able to sit and have an uninterrupted conversation without having to intercept a flying toy targeted to the destruction of the TV or untangle the friendly wrestling match about to turn into UFC fight night in our living room! We didn’t have to be concerned about the negative reactions to over-stimulation or the constant grabbing and throwing on the floor.
(You can see in the picture above that I was able to get an amazing cappuccino and drink it while it was still hot. What an experience!)
It was incredible. It was like we were first married…and it was restful.
This week I would like to encourage you to try to get away from the stresses of daily life. Only a parent who has a child who requires 24/7 supervision can truly appreciate the incredible feeling of letting your eyes rest…not having the constant of always being on duty to anticipate the next potential threat.
I think it’s really encouraging to know that Jesus felt the same way. In Mark chapter 6, we see that Jesus has been doing a lot of ‘work’ and also finds out that His cousin, John the Baptist, had been beheaded. His response was to get away. He got in a boat and escaped for a little while. I can almost picture Jesus saying something like, “I just need a little space to breathe and gather my thoughts”.
When was the last time that you were able to ‘switch off’ as parents?
For readers here who are married, this vitally important to my marriage and to your marriage that you find some time to escape and be “friends together” and not “parents together”.
For all of us, married or not, escaping allows you the time you need to settle emotions that have been constantly piling up with nowhere to go. These emotions can bring us to depression, anxiety and anger. Sometimes these emotions drive us to resentment towards ‘normal’ families.
This time also allows you to spend time praying and read the Bible. Last weekend was one of the most special devotions we had together. I think mostly because we weren’t rushed by the daily calendar of events. (Plus, did I mention we were at the beach?)
Here’s an interested thought…God tells us that in order to restore our soul, we need to rest.
“The Lord is my Shepherd; I shall not want. He makes me LIE DOWN in green pastures. He leads me beside STILL WATERS. He RESTORES MY SOUL” Psalm 23:1-3 – emphasis added.
Did you catch the progression?
- Lie Down
- Still Waters (Being at a beach is biblical)
My Encouragement to you for this week: Find rest for yourself, with your spouse and with God. As best you can, find a way to escape for a period of time. Ask grandparents or other family or friends to babysit. You will realize how valuable this time away will be for you, your spouse, your relationship with God and also your relationship with your child.
Do you have any tips on how you ‘escape’ in order to rest? Leave your comments below.