Time to think is a rare commodity
I am putting this blog post together while sitting in a plane, flying across the Pacific Ocean towards the Great South Land, Australia. While it will only be a quick trip, 30 hours of travel (one way) is giving me plenty of time to think.
Time to think is a rare commodity.
I know once my alarm goes off at 5:10am each morning there is little time to think until to lay down again at night with little mental capacity to ponder what we actually experienced throughout the day which past.
There is one thought that came to me while sitting in Los Angeles International Airport. It was wasn’t anything groundbreaking or earth shattering yet still enough to bring me to prayer and thanksgiving.
It is amazing how our up-bringing as a child influences our parenting style.
There are great books that help us identify these influences that we may not even be aware of, which have a profound effect on our parenting. One great example, which I do encourage you to read is ‘Shepherding a Child’s Heart’ by Tedd Trip. This style of parenting books are great and the truth in them is highly applicable to parenting in a situation where the child has typical development. However, my concern with these types of books is that the context in these books are rarely applicable to children with intellectual disabilities.
This week I have but one simple thought bouncing through my jet-lagged mind and please understand, it is not designed to target specific flaws that we daily exhibit as parents, my hope is that it simply causes us to think.
When you think about your parents and what they instilled in you as you grew, what was the perspective you learned from them regarding value on an individual.
To put it another way, do you see individuals as a person or the diagnosis? The reason this is important is because throughout the raising of a child with a disability there are times when you the person side, the disability side and/or both simultaneously.
God tells us through the Psalmist that God intimately knew our children when they were developing in the womb of their mother (Psalm 139:13). Logic demands that God knew that our child had a disability, yet He still remained lovingly involved and very active.
My encouragement of the week: Take time to think…what do you see more of in your child? Also, what are we, as parents, grandparents and other family members instilling into our young children that are growing under our influence about the value of a person? Are we showing them by example and word that outward appearance and cognitive ability are the measurement of worth? Or are we truly showing them that they are, firstly, a person created by God which brings value.
The truth is that we are fearfully and wonderfully made by God for His purposes…and that includes the children that we parent.